
Even if you think French women are liberated, happy and fulfilled with that, they also need ‘ingredients’ to express their feelings. They need to ‘make up’ their desires with romantic daydreaming, marriage or dîner in order to toe more the line. That being said, choosing a diner or cooking as a « vehicule » of love messages is not the prerogative of French women.
Did you know for example that women of some tribes in Amazonia eat a species of potatoe to express their feelings. Some scientists, observing them many years before, have discovered with amazement that this potatoe prevented these women from being pregnant. So they have extracted the oestrogenic plant hormone from the potatoe, to create the first pill ! They had the women’s liberation thanks to a potatoe! Amazing, no?
I guess you will tell me that I see connections between food and love eveywhere ? Oh yes, you know that there are other ‘carriers’ of feelings, don’t you? Like letters of love! Armandine, a French woman in WWI, wrote romantic daydreaming in a four pages love letter per day to his hubby Armand, gone to war. Her love letters have been published in a wonderful book : Armandine, Lettres d’Amour (love letter). As we talk about carying the love messages, Armandine has chosen to carry herself to his hubby ! No admittance was possible for women at the war front, so Armandine has taken a green and funny ‘vehicule’ to meet her hubby…the potatoe bag!! Indeed she met her hubby hiding in a potatoe bag! The potatoe, it again!! Liberator of women and ‘carrier’ for love messages !
While I was reading this book for Christmas holiday, some sentences of Armandine resonated in my mind. Well, I heard about these sentences before, I told myself! Yes for sure, I heard about these sentences at work, by these women who told me their life and their hubby.
Today, women have not really changed in their way to idealize their hubby. Their imagination is indeed very productive ! To such a point that, when I meet their hubby, I sometimes feel that it’s not the same man that they described me…
Building an idealized hubby is also sometimes a way to fulfill happiness in a buzy or difficult life. It’s a way to write a film that gets well with her, that reassures her. It’s like opening a luxury cookbook with delicious recipes, opening a new page of the cookbook each day and savoure. Imagination is a way to keep a love in shape and to savoure it better.
Obviously it works, you just have to control the proportion…you will learn how to do that soon in my book! We talk about cookbook, what about talking about a recipe? A potatoe salad au chèvre chaud?
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